By Andrea Davidson, MSW – Social Worker in Montreal
Spring in Montreal is a season of change—literally and emotionally. We shed the layers of winter, kids are wrapping up the school year, exams are looming, and families are scrambling to plan summer activities. For many of us, this time brings a mix of excitement, anxiety, and pressure to “get everything right.” It’s a lot. And for some, it can feel completely overwhelming.
As a social worker, I see this every year in my practice. Whether it’s a seasonal shift or a more personal life transition—a divorce, a job change, a move, a loss—change has a way of shaking us up. Even when it’s positive, it can still feel destabilizing.
I want you to know: it’s okay if you’re not “bouncing back” as quickly as you’d hoped. It’s okay to feel off. Change is hard—even when it’s expected.
Why Transitions Feel So Tough
Life transitions often trigger our deepest uncertainties. They force us to leave the familiar behind, even if it wasn’t working, and step into something unknown. This process stirs up fear, grief, self-doubt, and even guilt.
And unlike clear-cut events, transitions tend to be messy. There’s rarely a straight line between where you were and where you’re going. It’s more like a zig-zag—with moments of clarity followed by setbacks or confusion. Add external pressures—like coordinating childcare, managing work deadlines, or supporting a partner or child going through their own changes—and it’s no wonder we feel exhausted.
You Don’t Have to “Figure It All Out” Right Away
I often remind my clients that it’s not our job to rush through a life transition. It’s our job to move through it with care.
Here are a few gentle ways to support yourself when life feels in flux:
- Acknowledge what’s changing. Take time to name the transition. Saying, “This is a big shift, and it’s okay that I’m feeling off,” helps normalize your experience.
- Give yourself permission to not be okay. You don’t have to have it all together. Emotions like sadness, anxiety, or anger are valid parts of the process.
- Slow down where you can. During times of change, we often go into overdrive. Look for small moments to rest, even if it’s five quiet minutes with your morning coffee.
- Talk it out. Whether with a therapist, a friend, or your journal—expressing your feelings helps you process and gain perspective.
- Don’t compare your path to others. Everyone transitions differently. There’s no deadline on finding your footing again.
Therapy Can Be a Steady Anchor
If you’re navigating a life transition—whether expected or sudden—therapy offers a space where you can slow down, be honest, and feel supported. I work with many individuals who are dealing with shifts in identity, routine, relationships, or goals. Together, we unpack the emotional weight, explore what matters most, and build new coping strategies that make the journey less overwhelming.
You don’t need to wait until things “settle down” to get help. Often, reaching out during the storm is exactly what helps bring clarity and calm.
You’re Not Alone in This Season
Whether you’re preparing for the summer ahead, managing a family change, or facing something more personal—I want to remind you: you’re doing your best, and your experience matters.
If this season of change has you feeling scattered, stuck, or unsure, I’m here to support you. Let’s talk.
Reach out today for a free consultation. Together, we’ll take the next step—one small, steady moment at a time.